I developed a hatred for my MIL ever since the birth of my son. Nothing good comes out from her mouth as Chinese believes that we should say the negative to kids so they will grow to be the opposite of the meaning. For example telling the baby he is so skinny, he has no hair, he is naughty etc just so that they will turn out the opposite. I am not a believer of such myths. Ever since then (during the confinement period), I started to avoid her and have not greeted her or talk to her since. It has been 3 years but each time I think about the episode, I just feel very angry and my heart boils. How can I get pass myself so that I can start talking to her again just like before?

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Nobody likes to hear nasty comments about their children. If she is nice to you apart from those negative comments, then perhaps you could try to see from her point of view and regard those intentions as good. If you can manage to think that way, then it should be easier for you to get close to her again. Start off with buying a gift and visiting her house with your children. Otherwise, if she doesn't seem to show any extra concern to you and it's not causing a rift between your husband and you, I don't really see the point of reconnecting since it's been 3 years.

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Home Random Talk i developed a hatred for my mil ever since the birth of my son nothing good comes out from her mouth as chinese believes that we should say the negative to kids so they will grow to be the opposite of the meaning for example telling the baby he is so skinny he has no hair he is naughty etc just so that they will turn out the opposite i am not a believer of such myths ever since then during the confinement period i started to avoid her and have not greeted her or talk to her since