pp Intimacy

Hey, totally understand that fear, you're not alone in this at all. At 4 months you're actually past the physical healing window (most doctors give the all-clear around 6 weeks), but emotional readiness is a whole different thing, especially when breastfeeding is still draining you physically and hormonally. The dryness and that "touched out" feeling are real, your body's been doing so much already, so it might help to go slow, use a good lubricant, and honestly just talk to your husband about what you're nervous about. Some mums I know found it less scary the first time if they took it at their own pace rather than trying to jump back to how things were before. What I've heard from others is that the fear often feels bigger in your head than it actually is when you do try, and discomfort usually settles down pretty quickly once your body remembers. But everyone's timeline is different, I've got a friend who said it took her a good while longer, and that was okay too. There's no rush, and healing (both physically and emotionally) really does take time. Definitely worth a quick chat with your doctor or gynae too, especially if the fear is tied to specific concerns like stitches or tearing, they can reassure you on what's actually healed and what to expect.

Hahaha I think it depends on what's the damage down there. Like if you had any tearing etc. I had a normal vaginal birth, with a really small tear on the inside, one stitch. No episiotomy. My hubs kept trying to initiate intimacy at like 3-4 weeks PP and I had this fear of it hurting too, and i was right haha. It hurt really badly, like a sharp pain and i kicked him off. It continued to hurt even after my 6 week check, but I learned that the pain is because I was really dry down there. I didnt hurt as much if there was lube. we kept on trying and eventually it stopped hurting. I am 5 months PP now and am completely back to normal haha. You can always start off slow. Use lube if you have to and adjust accordingly :)