For me, I feel that post partum was more emotionally and physically stressful as compared to during pregnancy as it was my first time being a mum and it takes some time to get used to the new set of routine, the crying baby, the need to constantly feed/carry her etc. Not to mention you also need ample rest after delivery. I don't have a solution for you, but I would suggest you start planning who you are going to have to take care of you (preferably round the clock since your husband does not seem to be very involved). There are also support groups out there if you just need someone to talk to or a platform to seek help.