My mum keeps hogging my baby

There’s no way you can please two at once in this situation. It’s either you close your eyes and ears completely or you’ll end up with a mum telling you “Don’t ask me to take care anymore, then don’t stay here blabla” or the one cry, two fuss, three hang themselves pattern (一哭二闹三上吊). Since it’s your own mum (harder if it’s MIL), I don’t find it wrong to let her know what you want and ask her to chill abit on her end. Don’t back down, stand firm with your decisions. Don’t let her lead. We appreciate them for helping out and giving advices but there should be a limit if it makes us uncomfortable. Lock your room door when you sleep. If she knocks your door at 4am, tell her off because no one in the right mind will keep banging on someone’s door at 4am right?! If you want to bring your son out, do it. Just let her know where you’re going, no need to explain any further.. If she ask your helper to take over, just tell her firmly, NO NEED, I can handle, Thank you. If she thinks 7 week old is too fragile to shower, offer to wipe down then. Bring baby to the room, lock the door while you wipe him down. Only come out when you’re done. Eventually you’ll have to do something. Can you imagine if she insist baby stay with her while the both of you move over to new flat? Are you gonna let her be? Best to set boundaries earlier.

my mom keep saying to me the same thing - pass to her in the early morning so that we can rest, but we never did. but good thing is she will not barge into our bedroom unlike your mom. then better lock the door & be firm. better be firm now rather than later it will be hard to draw the boundary. your child will be confused who is the parent.

Could it be a misunderstanding? sometimes parents want to help us but they may not know how to, so they do it in the way they think is right. best to talk to your mum about it and clear the air.

Must lock your bedroom door. It is rude for anyone to enter without permission.