Having just one child

Question

How many of you are happy with just one child? Can share why you are not having more? It makes me guilty for not being able to give my child a sibling but it is also unfair to give birth just for her to have a sibling. How do you manage the guilt?

Vô danh · Answer

I have one child (22m) currently and although I would love to have two kids, but I am afraid. First concern is financial for sure. Secondly I’m not sure if I am able to cope with being fair between two kids (most people said first child is their first love), I am the second kid out of 6 kids and I am the most neglected one, neither parent’s nor grandparent’s favourite. Thirdly, I am still not ready for childbirth and confinement all over again. Another child means going thru everything all over again. Many people always asked “when you want to have another one? Just have another one, it’s easy.” The pressure is there but I personally would like to focus on one kid than to ruin two kids because of me. And also they won’t be the one going thru financial difficulty and taking care of both kids. I would say let nature take its course, when it’s time you will know. 😊