Trouble with in laws

How do you handle lazy Monster-in-laws who never care or bring up for their own son and yet want to be priority in his life? While I am pregnant with my firstborn (a girl), my pils told me not to expect them to ever help or care for the grandchildren as they have no time for her. While I am pregnant with second child (a girl too), my pils told my Husband don't need to tell them anything about my baby's progress as she is a girl. They are only interested if she turn up to be a "boy". It was fine all along as I never expected them to help due to the differences in upbringing; I just work while take care of my children and house all by myself. Suddenly, my pils had some issue with skin and eyes condition (nothing serious) and they expect my husband's to be on 24 by 7 standby for everything. I can understand it if they need him to accompany for checkup but they expect my husband's to turn up for every gathering or wedding dinner that they want to attend even when my children are sick with high fever. There was once my girl is diagnosed with serious digestive system issue and advise by doctor to rush to hospital if we notice blood in her stool. However, my husband choose to keep the information from me and insist to bring his parents for a regular checkup. He only informed me after he left the house, leaving to handle two sick children (a infant and a toddler). I have talked and quarrel with him over it several times asking him to look at the urgency and seriousness to priorities his time but he continues to choose to accompany them for wedding lunch/dinner even when kids or myself is sick. I am really losing hope in our marriage and wonder how should I continue with him and his selfish parents. I got no helper, nor help from everyone.

Vô danh

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Sounds really challenging with no help from others and having to work and care for young children. Is your hub the only Son or child? Ur in laws are just like mine, traditional type. Must have a Son. Ur hub might also be sandwiched in between u and ur in laws. To them, little issue will become big big pblms. Scared of dying. Ur hub is filial but at the expense of own family. Is he open to talk about things? If yes, tell him that u r finding it v hard to cope with 2 young children and his help is v much needed. If all fails, get ur parents to help or tell him to engage a helper if he finds it hard.

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Vô danh

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parents out for checkup and insist on my husband doing that just because she need to save her leave for overseas vacations. To me that's just plain selfishness. We hired a helper before, ending up my mil bought her gift to gang her up again me. To save myself problems, I send her home after she threatened my girl or to give her food is she don't listen to her. Again, my husband choose to keep quiet and agreed with his Mother, it is me having high expectations.

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