How do you discipline without spanking?

All you require is patience and healthy conversations with your kids. You need to have more and more conversations with your kids to see logic in things rather than imposing things on them. Let them have their say. Listen to them and do not always have your way. If you talk logically to kids, give them an option to voice their opinions make kids understand and they themselves get to know their mistakes and they accept them and you do not have to lose your temper for little nothings.