How do we figure out the boundaries that we’d like to set with our in-laws?

This question can best be answered with a tad bit of time. If you are newly married, and have certain ideas of how things should be in terms of boundaries, discuss it almost immediately with your husband. If you have been married for more a few years and are still struggling to figure it out, don't worry, it's still not too late. In this case, now that you are almost settled into your new home. Speak to your husband about the things that bother you. These could be many: - Their say in where you should work. - Their say in having children - Their say in how you should work around the house These may read trivial, but sometimes small issues can culminate into bigger fights with your husband. So the best option is to talk it out with him, share your problems and ask him to solve them for you.