It sounds like you do enjoy the times together, before the incident, and you would like to return to that atmosphere. It's frustrating when I lose something or simply forgot where I put stuff. That she cried and admitted to falsely accusing you, it seems, to me, that your MIL is stressed about the missing stuff. It's possible she's uncomfortable with how her perception of you changed since the incident. I falsely accused my SIL once for using my shoes, which turned out to be a misunderstanding. I wrote a letter of apology and we're back to normal now. Older folks may not outright apologise; if she does something for you, which is nicer than usual, that could be her expressing her apology and her wish to revert to old times. BIG HUGS. I hope things work out for you!
This doesnt sound logical. So many things missing. Is she forgetful ? That she misplaced them. Or is it an act that she hide all the items and pushed the blame to you. I wont be surprised that in-laws do that out of hatred of women stealing their son away from them.
I cant wait to move in 😄
Think you give it some time to cool things first. I believe your mil know that she shouldn’t hve doubt you. Perhaps help see if u can find the thief who have been stealing?
Somehow we believe is the individual members of the family have misplaced the items themselves. Because my MIL's colleagues have told me that she is quite forgetful and often makes mistakes in her work despite being with them for more than 10 years, especially recently. We didn't know the the missing necklace belongs to my husband brother because he was never a fan of accessories and we've never seen it before or know it exists (even if we saw it, we'd think it's fake. A gold necklace lying around in plain sight? So out of place!).. and when my thumbdrive was missing, my MIL merely said "oh you have so much stuff, you should try look around again." And I just replied that I throw away many of my stuff, and I've been looking around for a few days that's why I decided to ask if you've seen it.
Phew.. i'll feel awkward too.. my personal choice will be to move out and get a rented place... sometimes distance is better for the sake of relationship
Hi Candy, I do entertain that idea of moving out too but I don't wish to cause distress to my husband because he did try to make things better by telling his mom that she will always be his mom but it is not ok for him to falsely accuse me of stealing. I didn't want him to feel like he is constantly forced to choose between wife and mom even though he already felt that way many times (me trying to reduce this tendency and his mom trying to push her nose into our business everytime).
This is indeed an awkward situation! Do try and make peace since you are all staying under one roof!
Hi Jasmine, Ya I understand but I'm unable to act like this didn't happen. It's so awkward. We just don't talk for now, like giving each other space. And we'll forge a distance between us if we're in the same space..
This really sounds awkward, and I feel that the most important thing is to find the culprit!
We are interested to find out too! My thumbdrive with my passport details, NRIC, work stuff, basically my everything 😭
Move out. Part and move out.
Is there any chance to move out?
We're waiting for our BTO which will be ready by Apr 2022, my mom's place is too small to accommodate 2 more people..
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