Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. 😂 Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, 不要紧 la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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Hang in there dear, I know how it feels. Let’s take it positively that they are just our elders :) For me, I have 3 boys. When the 3rd was born, my mil did not talk to my husb and I for a week. She was so disappointed that it was a boy again. Of course, we both felt so upset but on a brighter note, we chose to ignore (coz God is great, we can only plan but He decides what’s best for us). When she finally come back to her senses, we talked to her again. The phase will go away as days goes by. Jiayou mummy! We can do this! :)

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