Having babies make my relationship with my hub further. Anyone agree?

Agree with Siow. Baby is an additional responsibility added to the family and both parents have to communicate about how the responsibility is going to be shared. When there is only 2 of u, it's not really a family, but like courtship even though u both are married. But when baby comes along, 3 is a family and lifestyle, time, money, effort commitments will have to change. If self is still more important than family, then at the end of the day only self will be left and no more family to speak of. If family is more important then self will have to make efforts. It takes 2 hands to clap out success or failure. U can't control the other hand but u can do ur part and he can also do his part