I feel you, totally relatable. Have a 3yo and now a 1yo, it can be hard.. looking at the house in a mess, laundry basket is full, kid screaming, baby crying and hungry etc.
You might consider some help, be it from your parents, part time helper... or simply, not giving up on the housework and focus on the kids. Wait till when the time and opportunity comes to do it. 🤣