Do you ever really gain back your pre-pregnancy weight or do you settle for a 'new normal'? It seems everyone I talk to seems to have resigned themselves to a few extra kilos post pregnancy

I was about 80kg pre pregnancy, and 6 months after I gave birth, I was 91kg. At first, I was pretty much ready to accept the new "shape" that I was in, then my divorce happened. I guess for me it was a motivation, because I wanted to better myself (and also I wanted him to regret