Did you and your husband have a "chat" about how to parent and come up with some basic ground rules -- about bedtime routines, how to say no, discipline etc...or did you just play it by ear? I find that my husband and I often have very different perspectives on things like who should our kid have a playdate with, outdoor vs indoor time etc...how did you resolve your differences?
No, we just play ear by ear... Very hard to instill discipline as my husband will give in when my son throws tantrum in public, whereas I can tolerate his screaming, whining and nonsense in public.