Did you and your husband have a "chat" about how to parent and come up with some basic ground rules -- about bedtime routines, how to say no, discipline etc...or did you just play it by ear? I find that my husband and I often have very different perspectives on things like who should our kid have a playdate with, outdoor vs indoor time etc...how did you resolve your differences?
It's very important that as parents we are united in setting the basic ground rules. Not being one in this would result to confusion and looking at one parent in a negative way (the one who chooses to discipline).