After reading all the comments, before you end up like the 2nd anonymous, best to talk to him, and ask him again why. ( i mean you don't want to waste 2-3 years and end up divorce right)
Maybe hint him (know it's not good to say divorce but) tell him, you can't continue like this if continue like this, than let's divorce. If he hold u back, he will communicate with you, if he don't than something really must be fishy already.
It's not good for you to be the reason to get divorce because you got hanky panky with other guy right. For me, if i really want hanky panky with other guys, i will wait till I divorce with him instead, at least i won't let people say i'm the one in wrong and give ppl a chance to shame me unnecessary . (I mean since ur husband already cfm chop [kind of cfm chop] don't want do with u once already right. Than if he continue having sexless life with u, even though he had no affair, will u still want to be with him?)
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