🌸 Ask The Expert: World Breastfeeding Week Special 🌸

Hi Elaine, you are certainly not a bad mother, it is easy to feel that way because of society’s standard of the role of a mother. Juggling work and caring for your baby takes incredible strength, and we are so proud of you! I have walked this path as a breastfeeding working mum too. When I had my firstborn, I still remember the guilt of leaving him at home when I returned to work and how the naysayers were saying I wasn’t giving him enough attention. When I decided to leave my job to spend time with him, many also said that it was a waste for me to be a stay-at-home mum. This is the kind of guilt only mothers know, the feeling that no matter how much we give, it’s never enough. But being a mother of four, I want to tell you this, we don't need to choose between being a mother and having our passions and aspirations. The naysayers will have their own opinions about what motherhood should look like, but always remember that no one knows your baby the way you do ❤️

3) Set household expectations Try "I need 30 minutes to pump at 2pm - can you handle ____ during that time?" instead of "You never help!" What matters most is that your little one is nourished by your love, whether you are exclusively breastfeeding, combo feeding or otherwise. You will always be their whole world!

Hi Mei Ling, I hope you give yourself credit for the strength that you're carrying right now. Balancing work and breastfeeding is no easy feat, especially when the support around you is limited. It’s completely valid to feel frustrated when your colleagues don’t understand what you’re going through. When I returned to my corporate job after maternity leave, my boss reprimanded me for disappearing from my desk as he thought that I was “slacking”. Once I explained my situation to him, he became more understanding of it and even suggested that I put up a “Pumping in Progress” sign on my desk when I’m away. Communication is key, and being accountable and responsive even while you’re away from your desk pumping. You can also consider wearing a wearable pump so that you can pump even when you’re in meetings. Please remember, you’re doing what’s best for your child, and that’s something you should be very proud of! ❤️

Hi Grace, congrats on your pregnancy! It’s great you’re thinking ahead. Here is how you can prep before your little one arrives: 1. Mindset: Breastfeeding is 80% confidence, 20% technique so arm yourself with knowledge! Attend an antenatal class and bring your spouse (teamwork helps!). 2. Colostrum: Yes, some moms leak colostrum (liquid gold!) before birth, but collecting isn’t usually needed unless advised (e.g., if you have gestational diabetes or hormonal issues). After 37 weeks, if your pregnancy is low-risk, you can try hand-expressing, but do not stress, your body will make plenty when baby arrives! 3. Physically: Nipples need no special prep, but do ensure to avoid harsh soaps. Focus on resting now, the real ‘work’ starts postpartum!

(continue) Protecting your wellbeing is just as important as feeding your baby.

It can be dampening to your confidence when your support system, especially your mother-in-law, compares you to someone else. But always remember this, love is NEVER measured in millilitres, and everyone’s bodies are different. You know what’s best for you and your baby. Here are some signs your baby is being fed well: 1. Plenty of wet diapers (6+ a day is a great sign!) 2. Healthy weight gain: If your little one is gaining weight consistently, that’s another good sign! Babies' appetites can vary (just like ours), so offer the breast often, and they’ll take what they need! Additionally, do remember that all babies grow at their own pace, my firstborn had adorable baby rolls, while my third was small and skinny. When comparisons come up, try reframing the conversation with, “It’s amazing how every baby has their own unique journey!” and steer the discussion towards something positive.

(continue) 4. Keep calm and find your oxytocin: Stress can be one of the biggest milk supply blockers, so after birth, so make sure you find your oxytocin. When I was breastfeeding, I would always ensure to take deep breaths and remind myself: “I can do this, my body was made for this!” I would also eat my favourite Famous Amos chocolate chip cookies to keep that oxytocin flowing! Ensure to pump often (8–12 times a day in the early days) too and keep an eye on baby’s wet diapers, they’re the best sign that your little one is getting enough! You’re not alone in this mama, you got this!

Hi mama, recovering from a C-section takes time, and I have been in your shoes before! Having gone through four C-sections, I was very grateful I had attended an antenatal class, it was there that I learned that mums who have been through C-sections might have milk that will come in a little later because of the birth process and hospital routines. I remember feeling nervous when I didn’t see any milk in those first few days, but I focused on giving myself grace and kept saying, “Just one more day.” To help encourage milk flow, you can request early skin-to-skin, even in the recovery room, and try to latch within the first hour if possible. Additionally, try to hand-express colostrum early and feed often in those first few days to signal your body to start milk production sooner. Most importantly, be kind to yourself, give yourself the same love and patience you give to your baby, and let your body take the time to adjust and heal ❤️

Hi mama, gently let her know that breastmilk comes in different forms during a feed, and it is completely normal for your expressed milk to look watery. The thinner and bluish milk at the start is like a refreshing drink for your little one, it is hydrating and gives them quick energy. As you continue to feed your little one, the expressed milk will become creamier and richer, providing the healthy fats and nutrients the baby needs to grow. Together, they make the perfect, balanced meal for your little one! Do not let these expectations define you, being a mother is a divine gift, and you’re already doing amazing!

(continue) you are doing your best and that is more than enough!