Mother in law

Before I get pregnant, my MIL assured me that she will help tc of my baby after I gave birth. Then during my confinement, I ask her to help shower my baby, she gave me many excuses. So I shower my baby myself but during then, she keep disturbing at the side ( splashing water, tickle baby feet blah blah blah) Then she see my drizzle water on baby’s head (I was careful not to get water in baby ear and eyes) she scold me. And next day she kp say I cannot shower baby like this. So I ask her to shower instead. She gave me excuses again but still does it and tell baby “your mother make me shower you” My husband ask her to tc baby for 1 weekend so we can settle some prayer stuff in Thailand but she gave a lot of excuses again and rejected us. But eventually gave in bcos my FIL say he will take leave from work to help. Then after confinement, my husband ask her to watch over baby for 1/2 day so we can run some errands and when we went to pick baby up, she complain here pain there pain. And say she cannot tc baby overnight ask us to think of something else. So I told myself don’t bother trying to ask her. Before birth, say so loudly help tc. When the time come, it all became bs. Then recently, she keep commenting on how we handle baby. Like how we carry him, how we feed him, how we change his diaper etc. I have the urge to tell her “why u comment so much when u don’t want to tc?” But out of respect for my husband I didn’t. But I drop a lot of hint to my husband that I’m not happy with his mother. It annoy me so much that I really don’t wan to bring baby to meet her. How do I make my mother in law shut up?

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I am a very direct person so if its me she gonna hear nasty comments. I used to dislike having kids until i changed my tots one day. So whoever had asked me to have kids i will tell them i cant bear one. Lol. But i feel not to have any expectation of anyone helping would b good. I had never expected anyone to help other than hb. Guess wif little expectation comes lesser disappointment.

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Yea. I always told them the same thing too. But it’s just upsetting to know she promised to help and then go back on her words. I know she’s not obligated to help but since my working hours are not fixed and my husband always not around due to work.. she assured me that she will help. Since she can’t help, I’m ok to tc on my own since I’m still on maternity leave. Just that I’ll need to plan after my leave end. Definitely won’t rely on her when the day comes.