Firstly please dun be too hard on urself, scammers are professionals at what they do and they specifically target ppl who are already stressed and vulnerable. It doesn’t make u stupid or useless at all 💙 with a newborn, sleep deprivation, financial stress and family issues all at once, ur mental state was not at its best and they exploited that.
For recovering the money, do make a police report if u haven’t already, sometimes there’s a chance of recovery and it’s good to have it on record.
For remote work, try Jobstreet or LinkedIn and filter by remote, also look into platforms like Growthbuster or Glints which have a lot of flexible/remote SG jobs.
But honestly more impt than the money rn is ur mental state. Please consider reaching out to a counsellor, even online ones are quite affordable. U have a lot on ur plate and u deserve support 🙏