First preg. No mum, no MIL. Daunting 😨

Among our circles, we seem to be the only couple with no mums. It feels daunting that we're going through our first pregnancy, the confinement after, and the taking care of our first child by ourselves without a mum and MIL. (*Father and FIL are old, and aren't familiar with taking care of babies, and aren't concerned or interested about our pregnancy haha). We are all on our own. Just curious, anyone in this same rare situation? How did you manage? Do you stop at 1 child because of the lack of help? Pls share! I get scared and nervous just thinking about it. And very envious of the many other couples out there who have help from their mum and MIL. (We stay in our own place, have no intention of engaging helper/confinement nanny) #1stimemom #advicepls

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Both our mums are around , but none show concerns . My parents even live with us, but are the bo chup type. We engage confinement nanny and my husband is very hands on . Our child now is in Ifc, we do not have helper so we do everything ourselves. We are planning for no 2. But maybe we need a helper (not to take care of baby, but to do chores so we can spend more time with our child. Honestly, I think husband are more important than parents. I envy my friends that they have nice mum /mil, but I am even more proud that my hubby is super hands on. Don’t let this stop you from expanding your family . There are many alternative around. Jiayou!

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I’m in a similar situation. No help at all during pregnancy, confinement (we didn’t get confinement nanny. Just my hubby and I doing everything on our own, and still have to entertain in-laws who just want to play with the baby). We are also planning for another child and are considering to get a helper to take care of the household chores so that we can focus on our kids. We still prefer to take care of our kids on our own. It might not be a bad thing not to receive help from family / relatives. Sometimes it can get very frustrating and tiring when they do things that they feel is right and it’s worse when you feel that your kids ended up learning the ‘wrong’ things and you have to spend the time to teach your kid the right way. On top of that, you wouldn’t want to strain the relationship or burn bridges..

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