RED FLAG HUSBAND Attitude

Question

2 years pa lang kaming mag-asawa. Pero 7 years kaming mag bf and gf. Just want to know if may naka experience din ba sainyo nitong mga nararanasan ko ngayon. Recently, nagkaroon kami ng argument ng husband ko sa daan while he was driving. Hindi na kami nag iimikan by that time na magccross siya sa street. At all of a sudden nagulat na lang ako sa intersection ay bigla na lang halos banggain niya ang Jeep at mga motor sa pagmamadaling makatawid ng kalsada. If hindi ko siya sinigawan, I dont know saan kami ngayon napunta. At hanggang makauwi kami mabilis ang kanyang pagmamaneho, imagine niyo ang kaba ko  dahil kasama ko pa ang aming 1 year old baby. Actually sa totoo lang, hindi ito ang first time na pinakitaan niya ako ng ganitong ugali. Even before we are bf and gf stage pa lang. Hanggang kinasal kami at pinagbuntis ko si Baby. May mga instances na talaga na hindi niya macontrol anger niya. At dahil forgiving ako at mahal ko, naaayos at naaayos pa din namin. Kapag hindi naman kami nag aaway, hes so loving naman. Pero this time iba ang naging epekto sakin dahil kasama ko ang anak ko. Natakot ako. Wala akong ibang mapagsabihan about this kasi ayaw kong mag iba ang tingin sa kanya ng mga taong nakapaligid sa amin. See, I am still protecting him. But how about us? Tama ba yung ginawa niya? Kasama niya kami pero kaya niyang ilagay sa alanganin ang mga buhay namin. Please advise if I need to seek intervention from my family (parents or siblings) or Mother in Law. I need help. I think nattrauma na din ako everytime nag aaway kami. #advicepls #pleasehelp ##firsttimemom #firstbaby

Maria Reyes Garcia · Answer

Ate, this is NOT about forgiving anymore, this is about your baby's safety and yours. What happened in that car could have ended very differently, at kasama ninyo ang iyong 1-year-old. That's not just anger; that's putting your family in real danger, and you're right to feel scared. A few of us mums have been through similar situations, and honestly, protecting him from what people think while you're losing your peace? That's not love, that's survival mode. The pattern you're describing, anger he can't control, it happening for years, and now it's escalating, these are real red flags na kailangan ng professional help, hindi lang family talks. Please reach out to a counselor, social worker, or even call a hotline like the DRRM or local barangay services, they can guide you confidentially on what steps to take. Your parents or siblings need to know, because you shouldn't carry this alone, and your baby needs a safe environment. You deserve support, not just "aayos, aayos pa rin namin." This isn't about leaving or staying, it's about getting clarity and protection now. You're a good mom for being scared; that's your instinct protecting your child. Please listen to it.

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