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Hi mummies. Do i need to reheat fresh milk to give to LO? because if you buy those big ones, you need to refrigerate it once opened.

Depends on your comfort level, I give mine fridge cold. But she drinks cold bm since young so there wasn’t any issue with her taking cold fresh milk. Some mummies said that heating up milk will help LO sleep better.

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Any working mum has good recommendation of breast pump? convenient to bring around, not too loud and doesn't require constant charging.

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thinking to switch from pills to patch. where do you get your patch from? avg cost per month for patch? cause iknow pills are definitely cheaper but i get headaches n bad mood swings.. TIA

I really feel you on this, the headaches and mood swings from pills are no joke and it makes sense to explore other options. I don't have personal experience with the patch specifically, but a good first step would be to speak to your gynaecologist or even your polyclinic doctor, as they can prescribe it and walk you through the costs, which do vary depending on the brand and where you get it. Some women also get it through family planning clinics like those under the Health Promotion Board, so that might be worth checking out too. Hopefully another mum here has more specific pricing to share with you lah.

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Just need to rant

My rs with my in laws has worsened since I gave birth. In the past with their bullying, I kept quiet and at most is get into argument with my husband. In fact 99% of our arguments since marriage has centred around his family. Today, my SIL’s two kids (7 & 5 yo) decided to bully my boy (2.5mths old) AGAIN. First time they did it, they climbed into my bed where my baby was resting and started jumping. The 7 yo almost fell onto my boy. I knew it wasn’t in my place to discipline them, and I could still keep my cool, so I told them to go away. But they still came back after a few minutes and made my boy cry three times. On his one mth celebration, the 7 yo decided to burst my boy’s balloon and also pinch my boy. I told my husband to tell my SIL to control her kids. Again during cny, the kids tried to play rough with my boy, and the thing is, since day one, everyone have been telling them to be gentle with baby. Even held their hands to touch my boy to show them what strength to use. Today everything escalated already. I can no longer stand by to watch them bully my boy. The 5 yo thought no one looking and went to pinch my boy’s leg. Later on, the 7 yo also thought no one looking, and went to twist my bound fingers. I shouted at both of them infront of everyone to ask them to stop it. Now, even my husband, thinks I’m too harsh. Truth is, I know it’s not in my place to discipline other ppl’s kids, but they’ve done so many things to my boy. Even when I was pregnant, that 5 yo thought it’s funny to keep hitting my belly and even landed in my belly when I wasn’t noticing. Thankfully nth happened to my boy. I have always been very mild and peaceful, even my SIL shouted at me to tell me to visit my PIL’s place and clean my PIL’s house, and also use my Maternity leave to go entertain my PIL and visit them with my maid to clean their house, I also kept quiet and let her say. But this is too much already. Even my bro in law can’t stand her and stood up for me once before. I’m very tired of them, and honestly, I just wanna have a good rest on weekends, but visiting my in laws’ place these days with my SIL’s kids has made my Sundays a living nightmare. I already need to guard my son against my FIL from making my boy sniff hard liquor and wine, and they’re constantly handling my boy in very rough ways. Earlier this week my FIL almost dropped my boy onto the floor. Anyway. Funny thing is, everytime my SIL’s kids do such things to my boy, I’m the only one who sees it. No one, not even my husband, sees it. And now my husband is accusing me of making up stories, and it’s honestly very hurtful. I’ve thought of leaving my husband to protect my boy, but I still love my husband and he’s very patient and understanding towards me most of the time. He only gets blinded when it comes to his family. Can u imagine, during my confinement, my MIL came everyday and sat in my room from Morning till night. I breastfeed and pump, she also refuse to leave room. Even come and touch my breasts to see if I’m engorged without even asking permission. My husband saw such intrusive behaviour as being supportive and caring. Actually that’s when my rs with them went down the hill. I had abit baby blues cos of them. Now better cos my husband got tell them to back off, but now it’s gotten worse cos my SIL is very overbearing and mean, and now even her kids are trying to bully my boy. I get that my boy will one day face bullies, but now isn’t the right time to be bullied as he’s so helpless and defenceless. My poor boy didn’t even know how to cry when he got pinched and his fingers got twisted today. So my husband says it’s no big deal. But seriously, I feel everything bad starts from no-big-deal. Today pinch and twist his fingers, tmr twist neck meh? Must wait till go A&E then come and step in to protect my boy meh? That 7 yo got violent track record, I heard he even hit his teachers last year.I’m honest very scared and stressed. I’m also dam tired of his family and getting into such unnecessary fights cos of them. Worse is, aft I raised my voice at the 7 yo for twisting my boy’s fingers, he cried and everyone went to soothe him without checking in on my boy just cos my boy didn’t cry. By soothing that 7 yo, aren’t they sending him the wrong message, that it’s ok to hurt others? Haiz……. I really really hate going back to on weekends to meet them. My husband insist we must still go back. I told him idm gg back more often on weekdays, and on weekends, when the kids are here, we send my boy home first. He just refuse. Haiz……..

It's better to live away from them. Just visit very occasionally and if really necessary. Set your boundaries if you feel you are abused and not respected. Whoever is it, your own family or your husbands

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Best cows milk for 1 year old? Does those flavoured dutch lady milk still counts??

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Pregnancy with cervical polyp

Wanted to share my pregnancy journey thus far with a cervical polyp (in case you are looking for someone in the same situation). I was first diagnosed after having very dark brown discharge (coffee colour) up to 1 day after intercourse, and in quite large amounts. Went to o&g to get it checked and found a polyp. It’s a benign growth that can bleed when irritated. I was hoping it’d go away on its own but nope still there.. Was told to stop intercourse entirely but we’re newly married, and i felt so bad for my poor husband. I’ve had light spotting on 3 occasions over my past 20 weeks of pregnancy - through external stimulation and non-penetrative intimacy! Even having non-penetrative orgasms can cause a polyp to bleed. Concluded that there’ll be no more sexy time for me until i deliver :( The spotting will last for a day from bright red to brown, and stop the next day. When it bleeds, I know it’s the polyp bleeding but i can’t help but worry every time i wipe and there’s blood. All 3 occasions i went to o&g in panic, but thankfully cervix is closed and baby is ok. The impact this tiny polyp has on a couple’s intimacy and marriage is not something that’s discussed much or easy to find online.. especially in sg. So i just wanted to share my situation.. it’s not easy but thankfully we have found ways to cope as a couple. If you’re in a similar situation/ need to rant, feel free to reply to this post :) take care mummies!!

hi there, thanks for sharing this. I'm currently 20w pregnant and having same bleeding issues. I was told that I have a small polyp but neither my gynae nor kkh a&e doctors confirm with me that my bleeding caused by the polyp ☹️ Did u get it remove during pregnancy?

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Any way to continue breastfeeding?

My baby is only 2 months old and i am not able to produce enough milk for my baby. I can’t even pump out 3ml :( It all started when i was ill when baby turned 1 month. Super ill had to take medication. simultaneously taking fenugreek to help with breastmilk. But later found out that fenugreek is not helping me to increase, instead reducing milk flow. That’s when i googled and realized fenugreek does not work for all and i am one of them. I tried power pumping for 3 days and still the same, I could only get few drops the entire day. Any tips? Can i still continue breastfeeding? Please help a desperate mom 😭😭😭

Pump regularly 3hrs interval a day. For min of 25-30mins. Got milk or no milk, just pump. Also make sure your flange is the same size. Flange size matters. Drink more water/milk/soups. At least 3.5L a day

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Jeju hotel with baby cot

Hi, any sharing on Jeju hotel that have baby cot upon request? I've inquire several hotels but all don't have baby cot in the premises. I'm heading there in April with my 1yo. Appreciate any suggestions! #pleasehelp

be prepared to co-sleep for that period

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VBAC Moms, so do u prefer c sect or vbac? Any advice?

VBAC Moms, so do u prefer c sect or vbac? Any advice?

I really feel you on this because I went through the same dilemma before my second delivery and it honestly kept me up at night. For me, the VBAC recovery was so much better lah, I was walking around properly within a day or two compared to my first caesarean where I struggled even to carry my baby. That said, every pregnancy is different, so I would really encourage you to have a long honest chat with your OB about your specific situation before deciding. Whatever you choose, trust yourself and your doctor, you know your body best.

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