Parents not happy with us when we against hiring maid for my newborn
Just a ranting post.. My parents has been always controlling over what I am doing. And even if me or my husband went against their will, we will get cold treatment from them. Worse, they raised their voice to make us scared and give in. From the first start we found we Im pregnant and we have made it clear we wouldn't want to hire maid, due to the heavy cost, mental stress (if she cannot work) and no place for helper to sleep. (Only living room) My husband and I made a decision to put at IFC when baby's 3mo. My mother was against the idea and tell us she can help to take care, even if she's tired she wouldn't mind. She added it's poor thing for my baby to go school and get sick at a very young age. She was so persistent w her persuasion so we forgo the IFC idea. I'm left with 2mths more to deliver and they suddenly brought up the hiring maid topic again. This time my husband and I make it firm we wouldn't want to hire and if your feel that helping us to take care of our baby is stressful to your, we will take care the baby ourselves. We wont let them interfere with anything. They aren't happy with us and they gave cold treatment, thinking we would surrender. We are staying with my parents, my husband just got his PR approved and we are intending to quickly get BTO to get out of here. I have been giving in to them the past 30yrs, now i feel like it's time for me to decide my life and plan whats best for my little family.. i hope im not toxic. #firstbaby #firsttimemom
Đọc thêmSo afraid my body will be ugly after I give birth
I am a FTM, currently at 32 weeks pregnant. My anxieties are many, from the act of labour, to being a good mother, to the recovery after birth, to new dynamics between my husband and I, to a more selfish one: will my body be ugly after birth? I have done my research and there are definitely many ways to have your body heal and put back together (somewhat), but many of the changes are irreversible. And while I hear many moms say "they are your battle scars, be proud of them", I don't know if I will ever look at my body and be confident ever again and not everybody will agree. Of course it's a different issue if you have plenty of money and can go have these things fixed, but most of us don't have that luxury. I am just ranting here, sharing a little bit of my anxiety. But please feel free to give your 2 cents if you have advice or feel the same way I do. #FTM #firstbaby #firsttimemom #stretchmark #fatcow #flabby #saggy #Hairloss
Đọc thêmHi, went for a growth scan and HC and AC are both at average and larger than average. However, femur length is -1.3SD. Asked my gynae about it and she said nothing to worry. But i’m so worried as I didnt do the NIPT and went google to realise that femur length may relate to down syndrome or chromosome abnormalities. #advicepls #firstbaby #pleasehelp
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