So afraid my body will be ugly after I give birth

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I am a FTM, currently at 32 weeks pregnant.My anxieties are many, from the act of labour, to being a good mother, to the recovery after birth, to new dynamics between my husband and I, to a more selfish one: will my body be ugly after birth?I have done my research and there are definitely many ways to have your body heal and put back together (somewhat), but many of the changes are irreversible. And while I hear many moms say they are your battle scars, be proud of them,  I dont know if I will ever look at my body and be confident ever again and not everybody will agree.Of course its a different issue if you have plenty of money and can go have these things fixed, but most of us dont have that luxury.I am just ranting here, sharing a little bit of my anxiety. But please feel free to give your 2 cents if you have advice or feel the same way I do.#FTM #firstbaby #firsttimemom  #stretchmark #fatcow #flabby #saggy #Hairloss

Vô danh · Accepted Answer

I think I’m considered “young” when I became a mom? (I was 24) No money as well so not many things can get fixed. However there really isn’t anything to fix. I gained 18kg during my pregnancy, I’ve never went past 47kg in my entire 20 years of life, imagine how devastated I was when I hit 61kg before I gave birth. I thought I could avoid stretch marks but what’s new? It started appearing at week 38. Nothing changed, except that I put on lots of weight and gained a few stretch marks. I spent 8 months (no dieting, , no exercise, just breastfeeding) to get back to shape (42kg). My stretch marks have lighten and since I’m not a bikini/crop top person, it didn’t affect me much. I forgot which month PP hair loss was at its peak, I was shedding like a husky (I didn’t use any hair loss shampoo or whatsoever since it’s a process I can’t escape), few months after, my hair started growing back on its own. You gave birth to a life, if your husband finds your stretchmark ugly, you probably need to change that dude. I am currently 20 months PP and everything has pretty much went to back to how it was prepregnancy (other than the lighten stretch marks). If I don’t bring my kid, no one will know I have a child cause I don’t look like a mom 😂. Don’t feel negative about your body, you’ve done a great job. Give your body time to heal and go back to how it was. You took 9 months to expand, give it the same time or slightly more to go back. Pamper yourself if you need to. You deserve it! 🫶🏻🙌🏻