When do you think is the right time to be a SAHM ?

Disagree with the above comment. In fact being a SAHM is a luxury, even though it is under appreciated. Most importantly spouse must be supportive of each other too. Here is my personal experience: Paternal bond not strong? Disagree. My hubby bond will my son more after I become SAHM because he gets to see us every night. When I was FTWM, my son was placed with MIL before I left for work, and then my husband will be back home, sleeping alone in the house. Yes I was working shift and if we are lucky still can "Hi bye" at the house door. The times that he look after our son alone at night is only once in a long while. Only during my off day is the luxury to sleep with both of them at night. What kind of different expectation? It depends how realistic you are and knowing what to give up when deciding to stay at home. No need to compare with friends if you know whats your priority in the first place. When I was FTWM, even housework, child caring and expenses are not shared equally. He only help out laundry when he was out of job a short period. That was 4 years ago. But its a blessing that we still can get along although once in a long while I do get inbalance. There is nothing wrong seeing why father has to work. The more should educate them if dont work, no money. No money, where got food and clothes. Speak up for each other in front of the kids. I bring my son to fetch his daddy too. And he will understand that daddy is not having fun.