Gender reveal

Was thinking when did you find out the gender of your baby- how did it you ask the gynae to just share with wife or husband the gender? (So the other one is completely clueless) but both still be in the scan at the start? Den one steps out? 😅 Wana do gender reveal separately with both side parents also, but thinking about giving them a balloon to poke might be too much for them? Wana record reactions