Ask the Expert: Managing BIG Emotions in Parenthood: Bakit ang bilis kong magalit at umiyak?

𝑨𝒌𝒐 𝒏𝒂𝒎𝒏, 𝒏𝒌𝒂𝒌𝒂𝒑𝒂𝒈𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒚𝒂 𝒑𝒂 𝒂𝒌𝒐 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒏𝒂 𝒏𝒂𝒑𝒖𝒑𝒖𝒏𝒐 𝒂𝒌𝒐.𝑵𝒂𝒔𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈 𝒌𝒐 𝒌𝒂𝒔𝒊 𝒌𝒂𝒎𝒊 𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒓𝒂 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒐 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒈 𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒂𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒌𝒂𝒎𝒊 𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒌𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒂 𝒌𝒂𝒎𝒊. 𝑷𝒆𝒓𝒐 𝒅𝒊 𝒏𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒌𝒎𝒊 𝒏𝒂𝒂𝒔𝒂 𝒔𝒂 𝒌𝒏𝒊𝒍𝒂 𝒈𝒂𝒘𝒂 𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒃𝒂𝒉𝒐 𝒏𝒂𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒌𝒐. 𝑰𝒚𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒏 𝒌𝒂𝒔𝒊 𝒃𝒂𝒃𝒚 𝒈𝒊𝒓𝒍 𝒌𝒐 𝒕𝒂𝒔 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒂 𝒂𝒌𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝒌𝒂𝒉𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒍𝒊 𝒑𝒂𝒈 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒂 𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒂𝒚 𝒏𝒚𝒂 𝒈𝒂𝒘𝒂 𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒃𝒂𝒉𝒐 𝒌𝒂𝒚𝒂 𝒂𝒕𝒂 𝒏𝒈𝒌𝒂 𝒂𝒏𝒙𝒊𝒆𝒕𝒚 𝒂𝒌𝒐 𝒈𝒂𝒘𝒂 𝒏𝒈 𝒑𝒖𝒚𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒕 𝒅𝒊 𝒑𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒍𝒐𝒈 𝒔𝒂 𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒘. 𝑵𝒂𝒌𝒂𝒌𝒂𝒍𝒖𝒏𝒈𝒌𝒐𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒊𝒌𝒘𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒐 𝒔𝒂 𝒇𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒌𝒂𝒔𝒊 𝒏𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒏 𝒃𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒍𝒐𝒈 𝒔𝒂 𝒂𝒓𝒂𝒘. 𝑰𝒏𝒈𝒈𝒊𝒕 𝒂𝒌𝒐 𝒔𝒂 𝒂𝒔𝒂𝒘𝒂 𝒏𝒈 𝒌𝒂𝒑𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒅 𝒌𝒐 𝒑𝒂𝒈 𝒔𝒂𝒃𝒉𝒊𝒏 𝒏𝒚𝒂𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒓𝒂𝒎𝒅𝒂𝒎 𝒏𝒚𝒂 𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒖𝒕𝒖𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒚𝒂 𝒂𝒕 𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒂𝒑𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒍𝒑𝒈 𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈 𝒌𝒐 𝒂𝒕 𝒏𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈 𝒅𝒊𝒏 𝒔𝒂 𝒃𝒂𝒉𝒂𝒚 𝒌𝒖𝒚𝒂 𝒌𝒐 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒍𝒊 𝒔𝒂 𝒂𝒏𝒂𝒌 𝒏𝒊𝒍𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒓𝒂𝒎𝒅𝒂𝒎 𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒔𝒂𝒘𝒂 𝒏𝒚𝒂

Does anyone feels like out of place or there's no constant atmosphere when couples lives with the in-laws in one house? Just curious because I lived in my in-laws once then I had this feeling like his family's always observing my movement and it makes me feel that all my movements are wrong to them even if they're not saying anything. Like for example: when the child's father isn't around for 4 hrs and so on so forth then the atmosphere changes fast that I can feel the negativity and a bit hot surrounding around me.even if the weather's cold. Because it all started when I was 6 months preggy, it was early in the morning when I heard my MIL says my name just once in low tone of voice while talking to her daughter because they thought that I'm not awake yet but then, when they saw me walking towards the cr in distant they stopped and a minute later my MIL walks outside like nothing happened. I don't know what to do, because whenever my hubby is at home my MIL treated me well and talking some stuff about life but when his not around my MIL doesn't talk to me, when she does its only one sentence like: "you done eating?" and after that it's like "ah ok reaction". What's the problem? Am I the problem because I didn't finish my studies yet? (Because all my hubby's siblings are already a degree holder also him) Because if they hate me by not having a degree I guess I'll have to rush my studies by shifting easier course. If that's what they want for the sake of my own. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm starting to hate them but I don't want to express it. I don't want my hubby get hurt cuz I know he knows better than me because it's his mother and his her son. I'll have to carry this burden in me but couldn't help myself anymore that's why I need some advice maybe by this, I can have some peace of mind and start collecting something that could help me coop up the main problem and start solving or correcting what's the error. I really need your advice

I'm always irritated after birth he always play on his computer My partner works full-time to support us and our son and when he is finish at work he just wants to unwind. I'll ask him to briefly hold the baby or play with him while I pump breast milk but he's never that happy about it and so I don't feel comfortable asking for more help. Our son is super fussy because he has tummy problems and by the end of the day I'm so exhausted from trying to sing to him rub his belly bounce him talk to him and do everything I can to keep him happy that I just need a little break. I don't know how to ask for this because I feel like my husband already does enough by going to work so I can stay home with our baby. I'm also getting resentful because he doesn't help much with him at all. Our son can't nap by himself because he's a super light sleeper and just has to be on the boob so even when he's napping I'm laying with him and I don't have time to do anything for myself. Which is okay I've accepted it but I think I need a little tiny break every once in awhile. How do I communicate this to my partner?

Me and my kids (one is 5yo and the other is 4mos.) have been living with my in-laws while my husband is away, working. I really don't mind my MIL and Sis-in-law helping out especially with the baby, but I'm really feeling very possessive especially when baby is with SIL, acting like she's the mom, taking baby from me even when I don't ask her to.. Also, she's been spoiling my 5yo by buying her with so much stuff (hello junk food!); I really do appreciate it but I don't know why I'm feeling paranoid that they, especially my baby might become closer to her, she's able to make baby laugh more! :( I don't have problems with my own mom & sis but when it comes to my in-laws, it becomes a problem to me. We don't have any problem with each other but I don't know... I really hate this feeling. I don't know what to do. :(

simula ng magkaroon ako ng 2nd baby which is 10 mos. na sya. lagi ko napagbubuntungan yung first born ko. napapalo ko sya, nasasabihan ko sya ng hurtful words which is hindi tama. sa sobrang daming problema sa bahay feel ko naaapektuhan yung mga anak ko. yung pag iyak nila, naiinis ako, yung kakulitan. napapagod ako umiiyak na lang ako sa gabi, kapag nagdarasal ako o kaya matitigan ko mga anak ko nagsosorry ako ng malala. napakasama kong ina sa kanila. nakakapagod na ikaw lagi kumikilos sa bahay, hindi ko rin naman masisi yung asawa ko kasi call center work nya 9pm to 6am, pag uwi kakain kami ng almusal tas matutulog na sya. gigising lang sya ng 1pm para maghatid tas tulog ulit. gigising ng before 6 para bumili ng ulam. ako lahat gumagawa sa bahay, napapagod na ako. feel ko hindi ko deserve to.

Bakit ang bilis kong magalit at umiyak? As a first time mom, taking care of my baby since birth up to now na nasa toddler stage sya. what made me cry is yung pagod sa pagaaalaga lalo na pagka may sakit si baby yung super exhausted kana d makatulog sa pagbabantay. Na maiisip mo mas okay pa na nagwowork ka coz it's a big responsibility but the joy it brings to you to experience all the milestone's ni baby na nothing can compare when you're working. yung pagiging irritable naman sa husband I guess when you're too tired sa maghapon tapos gagalitin kapa na gusto mo na lang magpahinga sa pagdating nya kaso minsan hindi kaya siguro we experience that with our husband/partner coz sometimes they don't understand us. we also feel a lot of emotions as a mom

Hello, I'm 21 and 3 months pregnant. This is my first baby. I know the first trimester is very critical for the development of my baby but I've been really stressed and depressed since the very beginning of my pregnancy. It's because I feel like a failure for being pregnant this early. My family was really disappointed with me but eventually accepted the baby and supports me since I still don't have a job but I already graduated last April this year. Sometimes, I can't help to be depressed because my pregnancy was very sudden and I feel like I won't be successful because of what happened to me ? I also don't want to feel this way since it will affect my baby. I need some advices mommies. Thank you

Lagi ako naiinis sa anak ko lately kaka9 months nya lang. Mula kasi nung nagkasakit sya around end ng september. Nahhirapan na sya matulog lagi. Naggising ng alangan na oras. 1am 2am 3am. Haii di ko na alam gagawin ko masisiraan na ko ng ulo kasi kulang na kulang sa tulog e dapat diba mas umookay na tulog nila by this age. Hai di ko alam ang gagawin. Nasstress na ko sakanya lagi ko nasisigawan. I need help please. Below is her sleep sched 3x nap in a day 30mins to 1hour (nakadede/latch habang tulog or gusto karga lagi) 6 30pm to 7 30 pm sleep time 4am to 5am wake up time(ngayon 2am 3am na) Exclusive breastfeeding direct latch no bottle / pacifier Very fussy sya lately haiii

Lagi ako naiinis sa anak ko lately kaka9 months nya lang. Mula kasi nung nagkasakit sya around end ng september. Nahhirapan na sya matulog lagi. Naggising ng alangan na oras. 1am 2am 3am. Haii di ko na alam gagawin ko masisiraan na ko ng ulo kasi kulang na kulang sa tulog e dapat diba mas umookay na tulog nila by this age. Hai di ko alam ang gagawin. Nasstress na ko sakanya lagi ko nasisigawan. I need help please. Below is her sleep sched 3x nap in a day 30mins to 1hour (nakadede/latch habang tulog or gusto karga lagi) 6 30pm to 7 30 pm sleep time 4am to 5am wake up time(ngayon 2am 3am na) Exclusive breastfeeding direct latch no bottle / pacifier Very fussy sya lately haiii

legit po. bakit nga po kaya, umikli ang pasensya ko mula ng maging nanay ako. especially nitong pangalawang panganak ko. naging maiinitin ulo ko. di lang sa mga anak ko lalo sa toddler ko pati nadin sa husband ko. feeling ko di niya ko naiintindihan. tas everytime magoopen up ako sa kanya, feeling ko nagagalit sya at walang pakealam, pero hindi naman. sobrang caring at maunawain husband ko. ahat ginagawa niya para samin ng mga anak namin. At the end of the day, iiyak nalang ako kasi marerealize ko na overreacting and overthinking lang ako.. niyayakap sila pag tulog at nagsosorry na nadamay sila sa depression ko. PAANO KO PO KAYA MAIAALIS YUNG GANITONG UGALI.