4 months postpartum ftm via cs

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Tanong ko lang po..Sobrang hirap ba talagang mag decide bumalik mag work?Nadadama ko na na worthless ako.Kahit madalas masama pakiramdam ko..Nadadama ko wala ako pakinabang kahit gumagawa naman ako sa bahay at nag aalaga kay baby.Di na ko babalik sa work ko dati.Balak ko mag apply ng bago.Kaso nahihirapan ako..Parang di ko kaya iwan yung baby ko sa lolo nya na papa ng live in partner ko.Pinapahiwatigan na ko ng mama ng partner ko na mag work na ko. Btw sa kanila kami nakatira.Feeling ko nappressure ako sa lahat.Parang wala akong kwentang nanay pag  di ako nag work . Pero pag nagtrabaho naman ako baka di ko masundan ung bawat mile stone ng anak ko. Ayoko lumaki sya na lagi akong wala. Ganun kasi lumaki yung partner ko dahil prehong nagwowork magulang nya. Solo syang anak.Hayyyys. Pa advice po

Amihan Santos · Answer

Uy mama, ang hirap talaga ng feeling na yan, four months postpartum kang may pressure from all sides, I totally get it. One of my mum friends felt exactly the same guilt, parang damned if you do, damned if you don't, and honestly iniwan namin siya na mag-vent kasi the pressure you're describing sounds like it's more than just the work decision, it's living with your partner's family, their expectations, and your own fear of missing out. Can I be real with you? The worthless feeling and how you're describing everything sounds heavy, and I think it might be good to talk to your OB or a counselor about postpartum adjustment and maybe depression, kasi four months in, that's not uncommon but it also needs proper support, not just advice lang. About the work thing: there's no "right" decision here that'll make everyone happy, so you gotta decide what's best for YOU and baby first, hindi para sa lolo or sa mama ng partner mo. Maybe giving yourself more time to settle postpartum before jumping into a new job might help you think clearer? Sending you a tight hug, mommy, you're doing way more than you think.

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