Hi mummy, I think you give yourself too much pressure.
My girl ifc can bathe the infant. Since when ecda says can’t bathe? Maybe you want to check with them.
My girl at 9mo old can only sit unsupported. Crawl is only those commando crawl (ie: like a worm, she only start crawling on knees at 11mo). Standing comes at 10mo.
Different babies have different milestone timing, don’t compare & stress urself .
If you really believe that it’s nutrition that is causing the milestone problem, maybe you want to bring them for a check at poly & ask them refer u to kkh.
As for food & milk, I just go according to baby’s cues. The more you frustrated with them for not eating /drinking, the more stress the babies are and they won’t eat /drink. (They can feel the stress & tension).
And at 13mo now, my girl can’t hold spoon to self feed & refuse to hold her own milk bottle, but that’s ok. Cos she prefer to use her hand to grab her food & want me to feed her milk in her milk bottle. All these comes with patience and practice with them, and they will learn. At 9mo, ur twins shld start to know pincer grip (hold small item with thumb & index finger). Train them with those small snacks and once mastered the skills, they can self feed with their hands.
Babies don’t suddenly “learn” these skills. It take time & practice and ultimately when the time for the milestone to “unlock”, it will unlock. All we need to do is to practise with them and be patient.
Lastly, ignore all these other people nagging you. You are already doing a great job 👏🏻
Anonymous