Recommendation of gynae, phobia for Pap smear

Hello, I would like to ask for a recommendation of gynae. I prefer a gynae that is:- 1) patient and “talkative”, able to answer to alot of our queries and at the same time reassuring us as this is our 1st time so we have quite a lot of things to ask 2) gentle, very very very important to me! Previously i went to a gynae (quite recommended in a lot of forum) for a yearly female check up, I was in such a pain when doing Pap smear (my first time too) and I kept telling the gynae but he continued to do it “rough” and also keep asking me “you’ve sex before right!” (I was thinking, ya of course I’m married for 2 years already) and after that I’ve a phobia whenever I’m thinking about Pap smear. Thank you!