Kawal emosi

Question

Saya ada anak 4 tahun.. setiap kali kakak ipar datang rumah, anak pasti akan menangis nak ikut balik. Menangis mcm kena pukul. Sehinggakan dia ckp taknak duduk rumah, nak ikut kakak ipar balik.. kebetulan kakak ipar tinggal berdekatan je. Boleh bantu saya bagi tips cara kawal emosi ibu setiap kali hadapi tantrum anak. Adakala saya berfikir anak kurang perhatian ke? Kurang kasih sayang ke? Hingga saya jadi sedih bila tgk anak ckp tak sayang saya.. hakikat nyer saya sgt sayang dan sentiasa beri perhatian penuh dekat dia..

Rosa Zanetta · Answer

Sabar ye, mommy, ini very normal fase anak 4 tahun yang attached kat someone! Bukan because kurang perhatian or kasih sayang, but because anak tu explore relationships dan ada favourite orang yang buat dia feel excited (especially if kakak ipar tu layan dia sikit berbeza). Few of my mum friends pun pernah through this, and they said once mereka understand it's not rejection, it gets easier to stay calm. For your emotions, try take 3 deep breaths when dia start meltdown, remind yourself this phase will pass. When she says "I don't love you" (which I know hurts!), that's emotions talking, bukan the truth. A few of us set expectations before kakak ipar datang, "Sis is visiting for 1 hour, then she goes home, and you stay with Mommy", so anak tau what to expect and sometimes lessens the shock. If you're feeling overwhelmed, maybe chat with your doctor or child psychologist sikit, just to ease your own mind and get proper strategies, sebab kadang our stress amplify anak's emotions. You're doing great, really.

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