My rs with my in laws has worsened since I gave birth. In the past with their bullying, I kept quiet and at most is get into argument with my husband. In fact 99% of our arguments since marriage has centred around his family. Today, my SIL’s two kids (7 & 5 yo) decided to bully my boy (2.5mths old) AGAIN. First time they did it, they climbed into my bed where my baby was resting and started jumping. The 7 yo almost fell onto my boy. I knew it wasn’t in my place to discipline them, and I could still keep my cool, so I told them to go away. But they still came back after a few minutes and made my boy cry three times. On his one mth celebration, the 7 yo decided to burst my boy’s balloon and also pinch my boy. I told my husband to tell my SIL to control her kids. Again during cny, the kids tried to play rough with my boy, and the thing is, since day one, everyone have been telling them to be gentle with baby. Even held their hands to touch my boy to show them what strength to use. Today everything escalated already. I can no longer stand by to watch them bully my boy. The 5 yo thought no one looking and went to pinch my boy’s leg. Later on, the 7 yo also thought no one looking, and went to twist my bound fingers. I shouted at both of them infront of everyone to ask them to stop it. Now, even my husband, thinks I’m too harsh. Truth is, I know it’s not in my place to discipline other ppl’s kids, but they’ve done so many things to my boy. Even when I was pregnant, that 5 yo thought it’s funny to keep hitting my belly and even landed in my belly when I wasn’t noticing. Thankfully nth happened to my boy. I have always been very mild and peaceful, even my SIL shouted at me to tell me to visit my PIL’s place and clean my PIL’s house, and also use my Maternity leave to go entertain my PIL and visit them with my maid to clean their house, I also kept quiet and let her say. But this is too much already. Even my bro in law can’t stand her and stood up for me once before. I’m very tired of them, and honestly, I just wanna have a good rest on weekends, but visiting my in laws’ place these days with my SIL’s kids has made my Sundays a living nightmare. I already need to guard my son against my FIL from making my boy sniff hard liquor and wine, and they’re constantly handling my boy in very rough ways. Earlier this week my FIL almost dropped my boy onto the floor. Anyway. Funny thing is, everytime my SIL’s kids do such things to my boy, I’m the only one who sees it. No one, not even my husband, sees it. And now my husband is accusing me of making up stories, and it’s honestly very hurtful. I’ve thought of leaving my husband to protect my boy, but I still love my husband and he’s very patient and understanding towards me most of the time. He only gets blinded when it comes to his family. Can u imagine, during my confinement, my MIL came everyday and sat in my room from Morning till night. I breastfeed and pump, she also refuse to leave room. Even come and touch my breasts to see if I’m engorged without even asking permission. My husband saw such intrusive behaviour as being supportive and caring. Actually that’s when my rs with them went down the hill. I had abit baby blues cos of them. Now better cos my husband got tell them to back off, but now it’s gotten worse cos my SIL is very overbearing and mean, and now even her kids are trying to bully my boy. I get that my boy will one day face bullies, but now isn’t the right time to be bullied as he’s so helpless and defenceless. My poor boy didn’t even know how to cry when he got pinched and his fingers got twisted today. So my husband says it’s no big deal. But seriously, I feel everything bad starts from no-big-deal. Today pinch and twist his fingers, tmr twist neck meh? Must wait till go A&E then come and step in to protect my boy meh? That 7 yo got violent track record, I heard he even hit his teachers last year.I’m honest very scared and stressed. I’m also dam tired of his family and getting into such unnecessary fights cos of them. Worse is, aft I raised my voice at the 7 yo for twisting my boy’s fingers, he cried and everyone went to soothe him without checking in on my boy just cos my boy didn’t cry. By soothing that 7 yo, aren’t they sending him the wrong message, that it’s ok to hurt others? Haiz……. I really really hate going back to on weekends to meet them. My husband insist we must still go back. I told him idm gg back more often on weekdays, and on weekends, when the kids are here, we send my boy home first. He just refuse. Haiz……..
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