Hi! I totally get it, you want someone who actually listens and doesn't make you feel rushed, which is so important for these visits.
A few people in my circle have raved about Dr Edwin Thia for exactly what you're looking for: good bedside manner, very patient, and he genuinely takes time to answer your questions without making you feel like you're on a timer. Someone in my mum group also mentioned a female gynae known for being really friendly and reassuring, and she specialises in gynaecological oncology too if that's ever relevant down the road.
I'd say give their clinics a call and test out how responsive they are to WhatsApp or calls before you book, that responsiveness from the staff often tells you a lot about the practice. Most private clinics are pretty good about it, but it's worth checking. Hope you find someone you're comfortable with!