FIL making fun of our child’s name

We recently informed my husband’s parents that we have decided on the English and Chinese names for our child. Being Chinese-ed, they complained that the English name was a mouthful, and my FIL even made fun of the Chinese name (he said that people are bound to make fun of our child in school with that name). I WAS SO FURIOUS, but decided to ignore him since my husband didn’t say anything as well. The more I thought about it, the angrier I became. I felt that he didn’t respect us enough as parents of his grandchild. I just didn’t want to rant to my husband because they are his parents after all. Anyone faced the same issue naming their child?

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I revealed the names of my children after birth. We registered the names, so no one can ask us to change or anything. But we did have the issue of the names being mispronounced. For my first child, my MIL couldn’t say her name properly, and I felt bad correcting her in an obvious way. Then after my child started talking, she burst out laughing whenever her grandmother pronounced her name wrongly and would make fun of the wrong name. That made my MIL learn the pronunciation properly, so I didn’t have to intervene. Heh. For my second child, it was my mum who couldn’t pronounce it. I gently corrected her multiple times. We’re getting there with the correct pronunciation 😂 Random thing... when my teacher asked my friend why his name was as such, he said something like, “I dunno! My parents are weird.” Another little girl I knew had a female variation of a common boy’s name. She was probably asked in kindergarten why her name looked/sounded like a boy’s name, so she hated her name and shouted at anyone who called her that. Basically, don’t care about what others say to you now if you really like the names you’ve chosen, but help your child embrace the names too and be proud of the names. If you do feel that your child could be teased or would be unhappy in future, then you can reconsider the names. Otherwise, if you and your little family are happy with the name, go for it!:)

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