Hi all! Just a random rant. My husband hardly give me gifts, bring me to restaurant. To him, as long as he can be full, it does not matter if its cheap or expensive food. On my birthday, I was given a choice of either having flowers, a cake or a gift. I can only choose one of it. Now he said that he can’t stay any longer on his job, asked me not to spend his money. In fact, I hardly spend his money. I spend mostly using my own money. We argue mostly on money and he said I was not supportive to his decision. He said he got stress whenever I asked for a restaurant meal on valentine day or my birthday and a gift. I was just feeling myself so pathetic that not even my husband is appreciate what I did for him and still being so calculative to me. It made me felt that marrying him is a mistake.

Some men are like that, they're not expressive or romantic. Why don't you tell him about it, maybe he'll see and try to understand your perspective

I don't ask for gifts either. I think sharing experience together is better than a present. If I want anything I'd rather buy it myself.

He’s not in a good financial position. The fact that he still ask you to choose which gift shows that he still care

He’s not in a good financial position. The fact that he still ask you to choose which gift shows that he still care

Everyone has their own love language. Perhaps you two should talk and understand what you want better

Communicate on what you expect and try to understand what he can deliver.

I value dependability & trustworthiness

Communicate and reset the expectation

You should have a talk wirh him.

Have you seen a counselor?