Parents with three kids

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Parents with three kidsJust took a pregnancy test and it indicates positive. This would be my third kid if all goes well. I currently have two kids under 5 years old. We never planned for a third kid but were open to one.  We were actually contented with two kids and didnt know this surprise would come earlier than expected. Feel a little mixed now, excited and yet worried about going through pregnancy at 35 years old! Both of us are working and our kids go to pre school. We are very fortunate that our parents help with pick up and dinner on weekdays. Likely need a helper for this third one - my parents are unlikely to handle a third one. Any tips on choosing a helper for kids and the questions to ask? What are the chores that are delegated to the helper? Im open with helper taking care of the kid, or baby after three months. Other logistics I need to prepare for? Car unlikely as we are good with train and cabs now, and thinking the third one would just make us go out far lesser. Also any female gynea to recommend? Did not deliver in Singapore for the first two. Thank you in advance.

Vô danh · Answer

Congratulations on your third, and its totally normal to feel that mix of emotions lah. I was 36 when my third came and honestly it went fine, though I was definitely more tired than the first two times. Since your parents cant stretch further, a helper really does change the game at this stage of life, especially with two under five still demanding so much.For choosing a helper, Id ask about their experience with newborns specifically (can they do night feeds if needed), their approach to the older two (some helpers are better with multiple kids), and be very clear upfront about whether theyll handle laundry, cooking, or just childcare. Some people delegate everything; I kept cooking to myself but had my helper do school runs, laundry, and baby care. It really depends on your familys rhythm. Dont hesitate to ask for references and do a proper trial period.On logistics, honestly you might find you go out more with a helper, not less, because she can hold the fort while you take the older two out. A third stroller seat isnt essential if your helper can stay home with baby sometimes. For gynae, I had good experiences with the paediatrician-referred obstetricians at KKH, and some private practices near the East Coast have good reputations too. Your first two births abroad might mean you have preferences on pain relief or delivery style that are worth discussing early with whoever you pick.The pregnancy at 35 is genuinely fine these days, just book your first scan soon to put your mind at ease.