I guess it depends on the upbringing. My husband wasn't bought up by his own parents but "others". My in-laws said they have no "baby" luck or time to take care of children. My husband spend most of his time alone and earn his own living. Even when he was bought back to stay with my in-law, they make him take care of his grandparents. He never ate home cooked food before etc only outside food. Due to that, this is how he treat our children now. He think as long as he provides food and money, he is a "Father". I got to spend a lot of time to explain to him and using his childhood as example to "coach" him and get him to work with me. After 4 years of being "Father", he still go into his "selfish" mood sometimes.
However, he do love the kids alot just that he do not know how to show his loves as his parents weren't there to guide him. Even now my in-laws treat my kids as "toys", only come when they have no activity that day.
Ling Fernandez