Not LO related, LIP-related post

Kung iisipin na bothered ka lng dahil sa natawag ka nang pangalan ng ex nya, then medyo OA po. Pero if you think about the other things-- the ex still being close with your partner and the family, "eksena" with girl during the wake, close body contacts, etc., then understandable po ang feelings nyo. Ang sa akin lang, I think you're somewhat in denial when you sya na ok at "dedma" ka lng sa relationship nila pero deep inside, it still affects you. Siguro you're just convincing yourself that it's ok para walang issue at hindi ka isipan ng partner mo na selosa or whatever. You may have an open mind but the mind is different from the heart ☺️ Eitherway, whether or not tama o mali ang assumption ko, this obviously affected you and I think it's best na kausapin mo ang partner mo about it. Iniisip nya siguro na you're totally ok with it, pero kung sensitive sya sa feelings mo, dapat mas maging mindful sya towards his relationship with his ex. Still, we shouldn't expect our loved ones to know better, na "alam na nya dapat yun". Always say what you mean, mag-usap kayo ng masinsinan ☺️ You both seem to be mature naman, so hopefully ay hindi na mamasamain ang concern mo.

Why does it seem like you’re afraid to ivoice out ung concerns mo? What’s wrong with setting some boundaries sa kanila if it makes you uncomfortable. Your feelings are valid, wag mong i-invalidate just to keep the peace on the surface pero deep inside you’re drowning na. He shouldn’t make u feel less and insecure sa “ex” nya, dapat nga nag-eeffort s’ya to assure you na ikaw lang at wala na s’yang paki sa “ex” nya. So what kung 8 yrs sila? So what kung close sila ng family nya? Wala ring delikadesa yung ex nya e. Bagay sila mga insensitive at walang utak. LMAO Di uubra saken yan, pag I feel uncomfortable sinasabe ko wala akong paki about sa iisipin at sasabihin ni guy or ng ibang tao. Why should I care bout sa iisipin nila, e wala nga silang paki sa mararamdaman ko. Yan dapat mindset mo, di na po uso martir mi. If nirerespeto ka nya, didistansya sya, if ididisregard at iinvalidate nya lang feelings mo, walk away po.

Skl. This EX issue also happened to me. 8 yrs din sila ni LIP. Nung buntis ako I found out na yung sister ni LIP was talking to her again samantalang ako di makamusta which tinake ko personally lalo at sinira siraan nya na sakin yang EX ng kuya nya. Also Knowing na mga kunsintidor sila pati mother nya. I did not let it slide. Umabot kami sa point na nagkagulo kami but ended up pinagtanggol ng mom nya yung ex na kesyo “di na dapat magselos kasi ex na” “nasanay lang siguro si kwan kasi matagal sila” “nag uusap lang naman anong masama” still a NO! They can’t understand that anything from the past that’s still on the table is so disrespectful. Also binibigyan nila ng window si EX na magkaron parin ng puwang para makalapit kay LIP. We decided to cut them off (his sister and Mom) MAS MASAYA KAMI NGAYON. MAS MAGAAN BUHAY NAMIN.

Thanks for noticing this mga mamsh. Siguro nga bothered ako, diko lang masyado ineentertain yung thoughts. It's just sad thinking na I'm in this relationship na. And most of the time, parang ang daming reasons for me to be disappointed. Sa partner kong di napapansin na di ako winewelcome ng mga kapatid at cousins nya, and sa fam nya na di maka move on sa kanila ng ex nya 🤣 Ang sad kasi in order to keep our family intact, i have to bear with all the treatment. Btw, gumawa silang magkakapatid ng photo slides in memory of their parent and i cant force myself to ♥️ react on it kasi most of the pics nandun sila magkadikit ng ex nya. May pics din naman kami ng kids namin with his parents pero baka di na kasya sa slide. lol. I'm just venting. di ko kasi alam kanino ako mag vevent out ng di nagmumukhang pathetic

Thanks for your opinions mamshies. Pero siguro nga dapat dina palakihin😅 coz in reality, di nya titigil yung friendship nila ni girl dahil okay naman dun sa husband ni girl. And yung fam nya, may point naman sila, they don't have to adjust sa feelings ko. Baka ako lang sumira ng family namin pag pinush ko pa. I told him na lang na, unless it's very important, di na kami sasama ng mga anak nya everytime na uuwi sya sa province nila. I'm really not comfortable with the vibes they're giving me there. Ako talaga dapat mag adjust 😅😆

Nah di po OA. your feelings are valid. dapat sya as your partner, nireassure ka after that mistake. kausapin mo sya about it. Kung ako sa'yo di ako papakampante especially (sorry for the term) pabida ung ex sa family nya hahaha. ok lang di ka selosa but set your boundaries din para aware partner mo na nagiging uncomfortable ka na. the fact na nabother ka can mean na you're not really ok with the whole ex is close with his family, you just didn't have any choice. magheart to heart talk kayo ng partner mo.

Kala ko tapos na. lol. Ngayon ko lang nalaman, as in just now, na yung video tribute para kay parent in law, si ex pala gumawa and ang daming pics na kasama sya, di man lang humingi ng pics na kasama kami ng mga junakis. Medyo nagbago tuloy tingin ko sa kanya, ever since kasi medyo friendly talaga ang approach namin. I don't know how to react na pag nagkita uli kami, expressive kasi yung mukha (according to everyone I've met) di ako marunong magtago ng emotions mga mamsh. Mixed thoughts na ko sa kanya ngayon.

Your feelings are valid and need to voice it out to LIP. Hope he listens and explains himself clearly. Then look into yourself ano ba kailangan mo from you LIP--- a validation ba na he doesnt have feelings for his X? whatever it is just talk to him...

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well maybe my feelings pa lip mo...infact d pa nmn kayu kasal kung doubt ka sakanya ivoice out mo..kausapin mo maigi..if defensive iwanan mo nlng kesa habang buhay ikaw mag overthink at wala closure