My hubby also tends to brush off the responsibility to take care of our child as he thinks is troublesome. This is the "Culture" that was bring down from the previous generation(s). Even when i was young, i do not remember a single moment that my own dad has really taken care of me besides giving my mom financial support.
What I can really do to improve the next generation mentality is to "teach" my own son what is so important about nurturing his own kid in future together with his future wife. Now i got to teach both (hubby and son) together... Oh gosh... I will use this method everytime he acts up again... I will always start by asking do you like your own father, if not why? And why do you do the same and make your own son had the same feelings you have before? Do you want him to have this same feeling forever?.... Slowly my hubby realised he is repeating what his own father is doing and gradually turn things around... though he is rowdy in teaching and doing bonding but at least i can see he is trying... To all mummies out there complaining why hubby is not doing things, please at least educate your own son to break the cycle that only mother is the most "suitable" person to teach... "Fighting"
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