Feel like a failure

Hi mums. Recently I found that my baby likes to be held by my mother a lot. Whenever I carry her she cries. I carried her the same way my mums Carries her and she cry. But when my mum Carries she is so quiet and calm. I feel like a failure I can’t even carry and soothe her.. and my mum keeps telling me “see, you have to hold her like that”. Whenever I do it doesn’t work. And she kinda mocks me. Im a FTM and my mum doesn’t teach me much. She’s very old fashioned. I’m so frustrated and feel like I failed as a mum who can’t even soothe her daughter