Mums, how do you refrain from comparing your kids? I find it tough to not say things like "Look at your brother, he reads so much, you haven't picked up a book in ages".

it's a constant thing that i need to remind myself and my husband. i guess comparing our kids comes naturally to us, but it can be really damaging for the kids. i have come to realize that all kids have some difference in their personalities, even when they are siblings and brought up with the same values and the same people. instead of comparing, i try to enhance the positives they have, appreciate them for those, and try to help them get better at what they may lack, without comparing.