Aww mama, I totally get the frustration! A few of us in my circle did berpantang sendiri dengan suami after first baby, and honestly it works fine, the key is realistic planning and your suami being on board, which sounds like he is lah. My biggest advice: don't worry so much about what MIL thinks right now, focus on what works for YOUR family and YOUR ibu's actual availability, bukan random seminggu estimate. Once baby comes you'll naturally know what help you need and when. The "kena kacau angin" worries were real for our parents' generation, but as long as you rest properly, have your suami helping, and check in with your doctor if something feels off, you and baby will be fine, most of us pantang sendiri with just our husbands bringing masak, doing night feeds together, etc. Maybe sit down with your suami first and agree on what you both actually need (like, does ibu come for 2 weeks instead? Does suami take leave?), THEN update MIL with the confirmed plan, sometimes in-laws worry less when they see it's a solid arrangement, not vague plans!