mummy feeling detach from mewborn

Hi mummies I am a ftm here. Is it normal for mummy to feel detached from newborn. When everbaby gets cranky and cry, i feel like im umable to handle baby and want to detached the baby. Like too scared to handle baby. It was all fine at thehospital but ever since we return home, with my mil's care for the babyand her ability to soothe the baby when he is crying, i cant helo but feel torn btw feeling detached, yet i want to fully take care of baby on my own after confinement ends so that i can bond with baby and form secure attachment with baby. Ifeel like if i continue with the helo of my mil, it cripoles my ability to care of the baby , bond and form attachment.

Vô danh

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Hey, just want to reassure you that you are not alone. I was in the same situation except it’s CL not MIL. I tried to learn everything from CL so that I can take on the duties, but at the same time I freaked out at not being able to handle. This is also while not feeling any love for the baby, especially when the baby is cranky and keeps crying, refusing to be pacified. The feeling is really shitty. Things only got better when bb got past 2mths, somehow became slightly easier to handle, and also start to develop the bond more. The baby also goes thru changes and it takes time. So I would say although it sounds very cliche - it takes time, and just have to be patient with it. Meanwhile just learn to do tasks during this period like bathing, changing diapers and feeding. So that even if you don’t feel attached to baby, you can still do these tasks like chores. The lovey feeling can come later. Not sure if what I said above is what I think you’re going thru. But hope it helps!

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