I really feel you on this, being a first mum means every product decision feels so big and you just want to make sure you're doing the right thing for your little one. I have a friend who tried the Buds Organic Calming Rub and she said it smelled really gentle and her baby seemed more settled after the massage, which she found helpful especially during the fussy evening hours. She mentioned she did not use it every single bath time, more like when her baby was gassy or having trouble winding down for the night lah. Hope that helps you feel a bit more at ease about trying it out.