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Hi mummies!Any of you are staying alone with your LOs? I wonder how you managed everything at home alone?I have a 10-month-old son and am currently pregnant. (EDD: Dec 2023)Ive been staying with my parents together with a helper and they have been a great help.. But soon, ill be moving out to my new place. Please share how you mummies manage your time doing chores and handling 2 kids on your own... i really envy and salute those mummies who can handle 2 small kids on their own without any helper.. Add info: My son is really very active. If im alone at home, i cant even go to th toilet.. cause he will be crawling chasing after me crying.. basically, he cant be left alone.. unless hes asleep..My husband works offshore. He will leave home in the morning and comes back at wee hours. Repeat.Unless it is his offdays, he is surely a great help.. We really need to move out due to space constraints.. only going back to my moms to serve confinement.. Please share your thoughts and ideas on how to manage all this.. im very nervous and anxiety is kicking in.. Thankyou in advanced!

Vô danh · Answer

Oh mama, first of all, please dont be too hard on yourself, nobody has it perfectly figured out, and honestly most of us are just surviving day by day! The two things that helped me most were syncing the kids nap times as early as possible (so you get a window to eat, rest, or do one quick chore), and lowering the bar on housework, laundry and sweeping can wait, but your sanity cannot. My neighbour actually swears by setting up a safe play corner with a playpen or activity mat right outside the bathroom door, so her toddler could see her and didnt panic, which sounds simple but honestly its a game-changer for the toilet situation you mentioned. The other practical thing is to batch cook on your husbands off days, soups, rice, simple dishes, so youre not scrambling alone on weekdays. It is genuinely hard, but most mums find that once you accept good enough instead of perfect, the anxiety does ease up quite a bit.