Yes by week 20, the scan will tell you the baby's gender. Regarding baby kick, I think it depends. I'm FTM and I was concerned too when I couldn't feel the kicks even at week 20 when I read that we should be able to start feeling it by week 16. My doc assured that usually first timers take little longer to actually start feeling it. I think I only started feeling the kicks after week 22 and by week 28 I could clearly see the baby stretching 😊