How about a part time cleaner who comes up maybe once a week? Household chores can wait, take a break, go out and chill with your friends. Ask your hub (or even close friends) if he/they can handle the kids once in awhile so you can have a breather 😊
U can Google part time cleaners. They have those just come to ur house clean 2 hours/ or by chores so you don’t have to commit a huge sum of money to hire helper… that would probably lessen your burden both monetary and physically.