Does your husband care for you, take care of you, take care of the family and your kids? Does your husband stay faithful to you? If yes, what more do you expect from this man?
For your mum, maybe she feels your husband should be someone whom is rich to meet her "expectations of a ideal son in law".
But, at the end of the day, for the next 10, 20, 30, 40 years or more ahead, who is going to live with your husband? Is it You Or your mother?
Money is a very sensitive thing, nobody can say their money is enough or too much, anyone?
Is your mother working? Does she have income? Maybe you can negotiate the household allowance to lesser? Or you find a part time job? What are the reason stopping you from working? Children? Family matters? Etc....
Put yourself in your Husband shoes. If you were him and your mother in law is like that and your MIL expects you to give her Monthly household allowance, how would you feel, how would you do, and what are your hopes for a better relationship with your Mother in law?
If I were in your shoes, I would defend my husband IF he took care of me, take care of the family and stay faithful to me. What is more important than a healthy and blissful marriage?
Anonymous