How to control a toddler that hits when mad or in tantrums.

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Hi mommies! Mag ask lang ako advice about sa 2yrs old ko na nahihiligan mag hit pag nagagalit. Minsan kung san lang sya mag hit, like sa pader, door or somewhere na pwede nya mapalo (not too hard) lalo na pag nag iinarte sya, tantrums, or napahiya (like nadulas or napaupo).Usually kasi ang ginagawa ko pag nag ttantrums is hinayaan ko sya matapos. After kasi non, goods na sya. Wala na topak. The more kasi na papansinin, the more nag aarte. Kaso, these few weeks, nahihiligan nya na mag hit lalo na sakin kasi ako lagi kasama. Minsan mild, minsan malakas. Hanggat maari, gentle parenting ginagawa ko at ayoko talagang mamalo kasi laking bugbog ako. Ayoko iparanas pa sakanya yun. Which i think hindi nakakabuti??? Kasi hindi sya nakikinig kahit na sabihan ko calmly na no hitting at gentle only. Basta topakin, matatampal ka nya. Last time nagpunta kami sa bahay parents ko nad nakikita nila na napapalo ako sa mukha and d ako nag rereact sobra and d namamalo kasi ayoko nga. Pinagalitan nila ako, sayng na pumapayag daw ako kayan kayanan ng anak kong 2yrs old palang. What more daw pag laki? Then, pinalo nila kamay saying na bad nga yon. Tapos pag d nasunod gusto, tinatapon toys. Another palo from them. Iba way ko ng discipline. Iba kanila. Gusto nila kada hindi magandang ginagawa papaluin kamay. Hindi ki lang magets bakit need paluin everytime? Masakit sya sakin as nanay kasi ganon behavior niya and need pang mapalo ng lola na ako naman ang nanay. I think i need advice about it. I dont know what else to do. Ayoko lang talaga pinapalo kasi danas ko sya super and i pity my child for to young to be spanked like that kahit ba kamay lang. Pls help mommies, kung ano ginawa nyo sa baby nyo na nakapag bago ng gantong behavior 😭🥺

Tere SC · Accepted Answer

Para po sa akin, medyo tama naman po ang ginagawa nyo. I have a 3yo and I'm also trying gentle parenting, though admittedly ay nasisigawan ko pa rin at minsan napapalo 🙈😢 (but I'm trying my best 😞). Tama po yung staying calm but still, you need to be firm. So kung namamalo sya, tama yung kalmado ka lang, but you still need to be firm na "no hitting" dapat sya, physically stop him from doing so like holding their hand, etc. Another thing that works for me is letting them know (and feel) the consequence of their action. Like if he starts hitting his playmates, iexplain ko na nobody would want to play with him if he hurt them or doesn't share his toys, etc. Or when he starts screaming and shouting what he wants, I'd say "Huh? I can't understand when you're screaming and crying like that. Talk to me once you're calm", then I'll let him be. Gentle parenting doesn't mean not disciplining the child. It only means not resorting to screaming and/ or violence pero dapat nandoon pa rin na alam nila ang boundaries and limitations nila. I highly recommend that you look up "Dr. Siggie Cohen" on social media. She's a child development specialist at ang gaganda ng mga advices nya on how to discipline children. Here's some of her videos for starters: https://fb.watch/r_EfDOt9Ao/?mibextid=NnVzG8

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