My mom always demands money from me and my siblings. No matter how much we give, it is not enough for her because she will "upgrade" and buy/ be involved in things that incur more financial commitment. When me and my siblings won't comply, she would cry, complain, and make up stories among the siblings and relatives such that whoever fell for her story would stand up for her and contact us to "advise" us. "Mom is old, and it's not right that you all are working and not pay her". If no one stands for her, she will drive to my sister house to make a scene, scold and curse us. As my sister lives with the in law, we eventually have to comply to stop her from harassing and creating all these troubles to the husband and in laws.
She is 62 yo, not working since 3 years ago. Divorced and married a man, 57yo who works as a store helper. She demands a car, petrol to meet friends in the day, gym club membership, expensive MLM beauty and supplement products, weekly 4D gambling, and commitment to multiple insurance policies. She previously had a business where she used our money to sustain her shop rent, utilities, and pay business loan. If theres any profit at all, she would spend it on 4D and herself. No matter how much we pay her, she doesnt save a single cent.
After the business closed down, if not because we found a job for my mom's husband, she wanted us to bear the cost of both of their living. Giving excuse that 54 and 59 are old and cannot work anymore. Both refused to look for a job until thankfully we found a store helper job for the husband.
When she is sick, she would take videos and pics of herself and broadcast it to the siblings and relatives, and ask for more money on top of the allowances that we paid her. She said she is sick and doesn't have money to see the doctor, so we have to pay her for that. But the medical bills, she nvr shows us.
Though this has been happening for years, now that I'm pregnant, with my pregnancy symptoms, I feel I can't take it anymore. And with the birth of my baby, I wonder if I want to continue to live a life controlled by her like this. Anytime, any day there could be an "explosion" from her. It's very off and my sister told me we have to endure bcs she is our mom. I feel extremely stressed, and I want to be out from this kind of relationship. How do I cut her off from my life? Blocking her doesn't help, as my siblings/relatives will come to me and forward her audio msgs to me. I hate it when she curses us. #pleasehelp #FTM
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